What is Forgiveness?

By Guest Blogger:  Nikki Hodson

Well, hello there, Reader!! It’s so nice to have you back!! If you’ve stayed tuned here, then you must REALLY be serious about living that joyful life that you’ve always longed for. Well, that’s what I’m here for. I say we roll our sleeves up and start facing some issues that REALLY matter! What do you say? Are you ready to get to work?

Let’s do it!  

As I’ve prayed about and considered this post, I’ve tossed around several topic ideas. The one that I feel like has come back to me time and again is the subject of forgiveness. Now, it’s a word that you’ve probably heard a million times, but maybe we can make it look a little different this time. Just bear with me for a bit here.

Ok. First of all, I am convinced that many people THINK they know what forgiveness really is, but are misinformed. Well, today is the day that we straighten all of that out so that we KNOW that you and I aren’t among those!!!

I think it was Oprah that I once heard give a definition of forgiveness and maybe she was even quoting someone else. Whoever it was, they said that unforgiveness is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die or something to that effect.  

What a great and accurate definition!! Think about it. If we hold on to bitterness and unforgiveness, then WHO does it really hurt? The person that you’re harboring resentment toward is probably sleeping peacefully every night while you are often tossing and turning with boiling blood at the prospect of them. They probably don’t even know that you are upset with them in many cases. So, do you think it’s hurting them? I don’t think so. Remember that forgiving someone doesn’t let them off of the hook. It lets YOU off of the hook. It’s YOUR life that you are improving by maintaining a lifestyle of walking in forgiveness.

Because I work as a Christian Life Coach, I like to remind people of this. The Bible says in Matthew 6:14 “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:”

That’s pretty important to note. Don’t you think? We all want to be forgiven especially as the final bell of life rings. We want to know that we are good with others and we have all of life’s business squared away. Most of us want to know that we did good in this life and have made it right wherever we may have failed. So, in order for God and others to forgive us, we must be willing to forgive ourselves and others. Yes. Don’t miss that I said that we must forgive ourselves.

We are all human and have made mistakes. We have all done things that we may not be so proud of. It’s ok as long as we are willing to admit our wrongdoings and move on and live in that light so that we don’t repeat the same mistakes. My mom always said that the only unforgivable sin (mistake) is the one that you fail to correct. I still believe that to this very day. We MUST admit when we are wrong and make it right with others. But, remember that we must still walk IN that forgiveness and try not to repeat those mistakes. I challenge you today. Take a look at your life and assess where there could be more forgiveness on your part. Remember that we cannot control the thoughts and actions of others and those things aren’t necessary for us to live in joy anyway. So, please, be thinking of this thought provoking question until we meet again, my friends. I pray that you will be able to recognize where you are lacking in this department so that we can go on to work through some of these things together. I want to give you some tools as well as some food for thought. So, let’s all get busy!! Let’s identify where we need to be more forgiving of ourselves and each other and we’ll work on the next step the next time we get together. Until then, I just want to say how thankful I am that you have chosen to spend this time with me!!   

All my love,


About Nikki Hodson:

Nikki has lived in Marion, Indiana for her entire life. She is a Christian mother of a 22 year old young man and the grandmother of a 2 year old young lady. She loves God, people, and music. She began her quest to become a qualified Life Coach in 1991 and she was in that proverbial classroom every day of her life. She eats, sleeps, and breathes God, music, and Life Coaching. She has a home in Marion, Indiana with her two Pomeranian roommates, Bella and Lola. They are both 4 years old. She is very close to her family and strives every day to step out of the box!!!

Go to www.nikkijordanlifecoaching.com to see how she can help you meet your goals!  See you there!

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